MAN'S WILL IS VERY IMPORTANT IN MARRIAGE - Emmanuel Ariyo
Why do people emphasize so much on God's will in marriage and not as much when it comes to other aspects of life. The common answer is " marriage is a life time contract and a wrong marriage can destroy the life and destiny of a man" does that make God's will less important in other things? And also I wanna ask, is it only wrong marriage that destroys lives and destinies? Of course not, some people got their lives ruined by wrong association, wrong job and career has wasted the destiny of some people, wrong places of settlements killed some people and many others. I am of the opinion that God's will should be emphasized equally on every ramification of life.
However, what is God's will? Is man totally disconnected from God's will so much that he needs to struggle and labour to find it as it has been portrayed?
I wanna start by saying that there is the will of man, and the will of man is not useless. God gave man a will for a purpose. He also gave man the mind, the senses and some intelligence to make right decisions in some situations. God never intended to do everything for man, he expects man to know the right things to do in some situations. The Bible says that a man that knows to do good and refused to do it has committed sin. James 4: 17. That shows that there is an ability in man to know what is good, to know what is right and fit. Talking about marriage, man can know what is good and right.
Especially when the spirit is recreated. So a man does not really need special labour in prayer, fasting, prophetic and visions to know who to marry. The same way you were able to take good decisions about your academics and career, the same way you took good decisions about your friends and associates, You can also take a good decision about who to marry by the wisdom of God that dwells in you.
I have noticed that God never forced his will on any man concerning marriage throughout the scriptures except Prophet Hosea probably, because we aren't sure if it was against is will. And if we studied Hosea's case critically, we find out that God didn't tell Hosea to marry a particular woman specifically, God only told him to marry a particular class or kind of woman(i.e a harlot) so I believe that Hosea was free to marry any woman as long as she is a harlot. Hosea 1:2. Now we need to understand that there's no specific man for a specific woman and vice versa. But there are kinds of men meant for some kinds of women. So it's wrong for you to believe that only one person is God's will for your life and every other person is Satan's will. And we need to understand that Hosea's case was different because his calling, ministry and message to the people was basically is marriage. Not everyone is like that, people like Apostle Paul and Peter, their ministries and messages had nothing to do with their marriages. Whether they marry or not didn't affect their ministries.
But for Hosea, his message was based on that.
Now I want us to consider some few marriage cases in the Bible. The case of Adam(the first marriage) I used to think that God made Eve and forced her on Adam against his will. But recently I discovered that the coming of eve into Adam's life was not against his will. Gen 2: 21 & 22. The Bible says that God made Eve and brought her to Adam, and He didn't say anything to Adam. Though God had it in mind that she was going to be his helpmeet, but God didn't tell him because he wanted him to make a choice. So God presented Eve to Adam and I understood that when Adam saw her, he loved her and he said this is the bone of my bone... I understand that if Adam had not loved eve and had reject her, God would not have forced her on him. Probably God would have taken Eve to another section of the garden and create another world for her. And I am sure that God would have gone ahead to make another creature that will be lovable to Adam. So I think it's reasonable to say that our will is not totally useless in marriage. To be continued in the next episodes, thanks for reading See other interesting articles
However, what is God's will? Is man totally disconnected from God's will so much that he needs to struggle and labour to find it as it has been portrayed?
I wanna start by saying that there is the will of man, and the will of man is not useless. God gave man a will for a purpose. He also gave man the mind, the senses and some intelligence to make right decisions in some situations. God never intended to do everything for man, he expects man to know the right things to do in some situations. The Bible says that a man that knows to do good and refused to do it has committed sin. James 4: 17. That shows that there is an ability in man to know what is good, to know what is right and fit. Talking about marriage, man can know what is good and right.
Especially when the spirit is recreated. So a man does not really need special labour in prayer, fasting, prophetic and visions to know who to marry. The same way you were able to take good decisions about your academics and career, the same way you took good decisions about your friends and associates, You can also take a good decision about who to marry by the wisdom of God that dwells in you.
I have noticed that God never forced his will on any man concerning marriage throughout the scriptures except Prophet Hosea probably, because we aren't sure if it was against is will. And if we studied Hosea's case critically, we find out that God didn't tell Hosea to marry a particular woman specifically, God only told him to marry a particular class or kind of woman(i.e a harlot) so I believe that Hosea was free to marry any woman as long as she is a harlot. Hosea 1:2. Now we need to understand that there's no specific man for a specific woman and vice versa. But there are kinds of men meant for some kinds of women. So it's wrong for you to believe that only one person is God's will for your life and every other person is Satan's will. And we need to understand that Hosea's case was different because his calling, ministry and message to the people was basically is marriage. Not everyone is like that, people like Apostle Paul and Peter, their ministries and messages had nothing to do with their marriages. Whether they marry or not didn't affect their ministries.
But for Hosea, his message was based on that.
Now I want us to consider some few marriage cases in the Bible. The case of Adam(the first marriage) I used to think that God made Eve and forced her on Adam against his will. But recently I discovered that the coming of eve into Adam's life was not against his will. Gen 2: 21 & 22. The Bible says that God made Eve and brought her to Adam, and He didn't say anything to Adam. Though God had it in mind that she was going to be his helpmeet, but God didn't tell him because he wanted him to make a choice. So God presented Eve to Adam and I understood that when Adam saw her, he loved her and he said this is the bone of my bone... I understand that if Adam had not loved eve and had reject her, God would not have forced her on him. Probably God would have taken Eve to another section of the garden and create another world for her. And I am sure that God would have gone ahead to make another creature that will be lovable to Adam. So I think it's reasonable to say that our will is not totally useless in marriage. To be continued in the next episodes, thanks for reading See other interesting articles
Nice write up anyway,
ReplyDeleteBut I wanna say that taking God's will of less important in every other aspects of life shouldn't be a reason to apply the same when it comes to issues of marriage. The simple truth is that it is a failure on man' s path, being unable to imbibe the will of his creator.
The statement " is it only wrong marriage that destroys lives and destiny" in your first paragraph just sounded like the crowd during Christ's crucification " His blood be upon us,and on our children"math 27:25, consciously taking risk that might claim one' s life and destiny.
When the first man saw his partner,Eve, he realised that what God gave him was purely what suits him.Gen. 2:23, that was because he had intimacy with his creator. The word of God calls for such intimacy between man and God through prayers even in this our present generation. 1 cor. 14:4-5 message bible. The only decision where he(first man) allowed his own will to prevail was what brought death to mankind. Gen.3:17. Kudos!
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