SEPARATION IN COURTSHIP IS NOT FAILURE - Emmanuel Ariyo

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      Separation of people in courtship is painful and could be devastating sometimes. It shatters emotions and destabilizes the mind. Probably due to these reasons, several people are of this opinion that it's bad for people in courtship to separate.
      But I wanna say that separation sometimes indicates success of courtships. We need to understand that a successful courtship can only result in either a successful marriage or separation before marriage. When I see couples having serious problems in their marriages such that they couldn't live together, I blame their courtship, their courtship was not successful.
        I was listening to a program on radio, a man was complaining bitterly about his wife, he said his wife lied about her age, her family and that she was very rude and proud. When he was done speaking, somebody raised a question and asked about his courtship. He said his courtship only lasted for three months, he said he had to rush the courtship because he was ready for marriage and he cant wait due to the overwhelming love he had for her. People began to contribute and they shifted the blame of his problematic marriage to his wrong and failed courtship.
       If I may ask, what is the purpose of courtship? Why can't you just find someone you love and marry him or her immediately? Or probably God showed you your spouse and you just marry without courting, since you are sure that God cannot make mistakes. Everybody courts because compatibility must be tested. You need to understand that you can't live with everyone, some people's philosophy, idea and way of life are very different from yours such that you can't arrive at a common ground. You may not necessarily marry a perfect person for you, but you must marry someone that is compartible with you, and courtship is responsible for discovering compatibility.
       Courtship is not for pleasure or fun, it's not meant for satisfying the lust and emotional passion of our body. It's a work and a journey. A journey of discovering yourself and your partner, it's a period of planning and setting priorities. But it's unfortunate that many people practice an exact opposite of these things, they get overwhelmed by emotions and take courtship as a time of pleasure. So after several months of courtship, they discovered that they have not learnt anything, neither have they achieved anything other than just shopping and hugging. When such people get married, and they started having difficulties in understanding each other over small issues, it's gonna look like courtship is not effective in discovering your partner. No, it is not true. If the right thing is done, there are warning signs that will hint you about how compartible you are to your partner.
          So courtship is to discover compatibility between two people, so if the people involved discovered that they aren't compartible, the best thing is to quit the courtship. Though it is not easy due to emotions or the fear of finding someone else or the fear of what people will say, but you can't marry someone whose thinking and views of life is very far apart. The Bible says two cannot walk together unless they AGREE. The agreement is compatibility. So, seperation in courtship is not a failure. It could be a sign that you have discovered what you are suppose to discover and that is success.



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